Do we have enough time?

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“I am always saddened by the death of a good person. It is from this sadness that a feeling of gratitude emerges. I feel honored to have known them and blessed that their passing serves as a reminder to me that my time on this beautiful earth is limited and that I should seize the opportunity I have to forgive, share, explore, and love. I can think of no greater way to honor the deceased than to live this way.”
― Steve Maraboli (Speaker, bestselling author and Behavioral Science academic)
Over the weekend I learned that a loved one’s (I will call him K) father passed away unexpectedly. K was making plans to go visit him when he got the news. K’s father had cancer, and they knew he would not live long, but they didn’t think it would be this fast. Now K is making plans for him and his family to attend the Celebration of Life party (no funeral) for his father. So sad, and it got me thinking about a few different things.
First, K is a very busy guy. He has a family, a demanding job that takes him out of town a lot, and a very full social calendar. I wondered if, after the initial shock of his father’s passing dissipated some, if he would look at his life in a new light. Would he clear his calendar a bit to spend more time with his family? Would he adjust his work schedule to be home more? Would he look at his own mortality and begin to have a new outlook on life?
Second, I started reflecting on my own life. I was recently lamenting (ok, maybe complaining) that I did not have enough time to get everything done that I wanted to do. I work full time, started volunteering, am a student of yoga/holistic coaching, want to take workshops, write this blog, etc. etc. Was I connecting with my loved ones enough, so if something happened suddenly they would feel we had enough time together?
In Steve Maraboli’s quote above I believe I found some of the answers. We have to keep going, but HOW we do it can be very different:
Forgiveness: In my view, the only one that is hurt by harboring anger and resentment is me. I tell anyone that listens that forgiving is like putting down a bag of stones you have been carrying for a long time. The release of the weight is freeing. And even if you don’t say it to the person’s face, I believe they feel it, and there is a shift. Find a way to forgive and you free YOURSELF.
Sharing: It could be time, it could be stories, and it could be teaching someone a new skill. It can happen with your loved ones, people at your work, or in your community. Sharing your time and talent is a win-win for everyone.
Exploring: The meanings for this could be endless. Explore ways of forgiving and sharing. Literally explore new places with those you love. Try something new. Meet some new people. Stay vital.
Love: ‘Nuff said.
Start small. Say thank you. Say I love you. Be present. Find your special way to live your life to honor those that are no longer physically with us, but remain in our heart.

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