A fellow yoga student posed the question, “Is it wrong that I love to be alone”? As I thought about the question, my answer was there are times I like to be alone, and there are times I like to be with others. And for me, the majority of the time I want to be with others. I like creating connections when you are with people who share your passions and are supportive. I like the interactions, the idea sharing and the thought provoking questions that are posed that get me thinking. I like having a community.
In my last blog I wrote about how I was in a miserable situation out of fear. Part of what made that situation unbearable for me was my loss of community. Many people that I believed were friends chose to treat me differently and some outright shunned me. Groups that I interacted with and felt a connection to dissipated, or I gave them up as I was losing the connections that I valued. That was devastating to me.
In contrast, my new community of fellow Yoga Teacher/Holistic Coach Training students is a nurturing, supportive group of like-minded people. We connect on many different levels, whether it is struggling through a new yoga pose, learning to cook vegetarian, or having spiritual issues like anxiety or depression. We pose questions to each other in our Facebook group, we share recipes, and we share inspiration. It is exactly what I need. We were brought together for many different reasons, but I feel it was the Universe answering my intention for a new community to replace the one I had lost. I am very grateful that this amazing group of people has entered my life.
I feel connection is a critical aspect to the health of my mind, body and soul, and it appears others feel the same. I have included several quotes on connection below. I hope you enjoy them.
“A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality.”
― John Lennon
“We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.”
― Herman Melville
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
― Brené Brown
“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
― John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love
“We are like islands in the sea, separate on the surface but connected in the deep.”
― William James
“When we know ourselves to be connected to all others, acting compassionately is simply the natural thing to do.”
― Rachel Naomi Remen
“Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by the accidents of time, or place, or circumstances, are brought into closer connection with you.”
“A tribe is a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea. For millions of years, human beings have been part of one tribe or another. A group needs only two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate.”
― Seth Godin, Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us
“We often forget our human connectedness. Throughout my life, I have felt the greatest beauty lies in this connection. It has been in the deepest connections with others that I have experienced the greatest degree of learning, healing and transformation. This connection is a powerful thing, with the ability to transform lives, and ultimately transform human experience.”
― Kristi Bowman, Journey to One: A Woman’s Story of Emotional Healing and Spiritual Awakening
“Consider letting go of the barriers between yourself and others, let go of the definition our culture has inflicted upon us and allow the best part of ourselves to connect with the wondrous parts of others. Allow yourself to connect in a deeper and more profound way.”
― David W. Earle